Taken from Maxwell Maltz’s book Psycho-Cybernetics. Cybernetics loosely translated from the Greek meaning ‘a helmsman who steers his ship to port.’ Maltz coined the phrase Psycho-Cybernetics, as ‘steering your mind to a productive, useful goal, so you can reach the greatest port in the world, peace of mind.’
One of the key principles for me was the SUCCESS principle.
Sense of Direction
Below I outline the importance of each and give you a tip on how to improve each area.
Sense of Direction
Man is like a bicycle. A bicycle maintains its poise and equilibrium only when it is moving forward. You get shaky and in trouble when you are trying to maintain balance standing still. A sense of direction gives you a purpose to move towards.
How - Get yourself a goal or a project. Decide what outcome you want from a situation and work towards it. Look forward not backwards.
To deal effectively with a problem, you first need to have an understanding of its true nature. You cannot react appropriately if the information you have is wrong or misunderstood.
How - Look for and seek the true information, concerning your problem. ‘It doesn’t matter who is right, but what is right’.
Having a goal and understanding is not nearly enough. You must have the courage to act upon it. Only by action, can goals and desires become reality.
How - Be willing to make a few mistakes and to suffer a little pain. Chances are, you wont get it right first time.
All successful personalities have some interest in and regard for other people. They have respect for others’ problems and needs.
How - Develop a genuine appreciation for people.
Holding a low opinion of ourselves is not a virtue, but a vice. Negativity breeds negativity, in the same way positivity breeds positivity.
How - Stop carrying around a mental picture of yourself as a defeated, worthless person. The word esteem literally means to ‘appreciate the worth.’
Confidence is built upon an experience of success. Small success are stepping stones to bigger successes to improve self-confidence. Remember past success's and forget failures.
How - Use errors and mistakes as a way to learning then dismiss them from your mind. Deliberately remember all past successes.
No real success or genuine happiness is possible until a person gains some degree of self-acceptance. Changing your self-image does not mean changing yourself, but changing your mental picture, your estimation, conception and realisation of that self.
How - It is necessary to intellectually recognise out short-comings, and tolerate imperfection in ourselves, but disastrous to hate ourselves because of them.
Learn these, write them somewhere, and start building up your own SUCCESS.